Experiencing miscarriage can be a traumatic and stressful experience. Preparing for a child then suddenly grieving his/her loss can seem insurmountable. Some will choose pregnancy again right away, and some will want to wait. Regardless of timing, getting pregnant again can lead to a number of emotions and concerns.
Physically
For many women, they are more fertile right after a miscarriage. This can be scary, but 80% of women who have had one miscarriage will go on to have a healthy pregnancy. Your mental health matters too, however, and some doctors may recommend that you wait.
Before getting pregnant again, it could be helpful to learn why you had the miscarriage so you know what you may have to do differently. Remember, it is never your fault that you had a miscarriage. Recommended tests can include:
- Blood tests. Testing a sample of your blood can help find out if your hormones or your immune system aren’t working as they should.
- Chromosomal tests. You and your partner might both have your blood tested to see if your chromosomes are a factor. If there’s tissue from the miscarriage, it also may be tested.
- An ultrasound or an MRI, to help find conditions that affect the uterus.
Although it is never your fault if you have a miscarriage, there are actions you can take before getting pregnant to decrease your chances of a miscarriage, like:
- Stop smoking
- Lose weight
- Limit caffeine
- Take prenatal vitamins
Emotionally
Your emotions are important and any and all emotions you have are valid. Allow yourself to feel your emotions. Talk it out with someone close to you or journal. Find a therapist or reproductive loss support group for additional support. Good places to find a support group include your hospital, looking online, or social media.
Some people who have seen you struggle with your miscarriage will try to give advice or voice concerns. Try to be patient with them and take their advice with a grain of salt. Remember that they are going through their own emotions, too.
Conflicting emotions may not go away even after the birth of a healthy child. Still know that all of your feelings are valid and you have the right to feel all of them.
Getting pregnant after a miscarriage can be an emotionally wrought and stressful time, but you can get through it. All emotions are valid and you are important. You will get through this pregnancy, too.
By Bethanie Ryan
